Friday, September 24, 2010

Help Your Kids to Win These 5 Sources of School Stress

                                                              -Thiyagarajakumar
As parents, there’s nothing worse than seeing our children unhappy.
Chances are, at some point during their school years, most children will suffer the effects of school-related stress. Kids are resilient and the effects of stress are generally short-lived, but there are situations in which feelings continue to fester and cause other issues.
Some signs a child might be stressed over school matters are:
·         Not wanting to go to school
·         Frequently suffering from stomach-aches or other pains that have no apparent physiological cause
·         Increased nervousness or worry about school events
·         Being excessively tired in the mornings or after school
·         Decreased interest in completing assignments
·         Crying or expressing anger during the school day
·         Extreme lack of organization at school
·         A sudden drop in achievement
Just being aware of these warning signs is the first step in helping kids to learn important coping strategies.
Here are 5 common sources of stress that can arise at school, and how to help your children deal with them:



1. Fatigue.

Think of how you feel having to go to work when you’re overtired. Now imagine how your child would respond to school under similar conditions.
Children who appear fatigued during the school day, or who are unable to rise at their usual time, are likely suffering the effects of too little sleep. One way to combat this is by implementing a strict bedtime routine.
Work with your children to establish guidelines. Limit television, video games, or other stimulating activities after dinner. Set aside bath time or quiet reading each night, followed by a specific bedtime. Ensure they follow the same routine each night, and be sure to wake them at the same time every morning. Once the routine is established, you’ll be able to adjust sleeping and waking times to suit their needs.

2. Boredom.

Ever hear your child complain that school is boring? It may be that school is either too easy or too challenging, but more than likely it’s simply your child’s growing need to be active and let off steam.
Because they spend so much of the day sitting at their desks, don’t compound the boredom problem by allowing your children to spend a lot of time vegetating after school. Organize extra-curricular activities a couple of days per week. Sports, dance, music lessons and youth groups can help kids keep active and gain valuable life experiences. On days when there are no activities planned, encourage kids to play outside, invite a friend over, or play a game with you.



3. Grades.

Poor or lowering grades can become a major source of stress. If your child appears to be anxious about an isolated poor grade, explain the importance of looking at the big picture, instead of each individual mark.
However, if grades are consistently low or steadily dropping, it may be a sign your child needs an extra hand. First, set up an interview with the classroom teacher and/or school principal to identify the source of trouble. It could be a problem with communication, processing, or a troublesome subject. Second, discuss ways to help your child be successful.
Teachers can adapt program requirements to accommodate your child’s needs, and you can be given advice on how to help them at home. If necessary, you can discuss options for private tuition.



4. Peers.

As much as we think our kids are wonderful, there will be times others don’t agree. Most children go through periods of social isolation or being bullied by peers.
Help kids build confidence outside of school by involving them in extra-curricular activities and community groups. If they can find a source of friendship and stability outside of the classroom, they’re more likely to bring those affirmative feelings to school with them each day.
If your child is being bullied, do not hesitate to involve the school principal. Explain that you wish to have the problem dealt with in a discreet manner so your child does not become even more of a target.
Most of all, when kids begin to feel isolated by their peers, they need your love, patience and understanding.



5. Authority.

Some children are highly sensitive to sources of authority in the school, and the root problem can lie with either party.
I have seen how just one child can destroy the entire classroom environment with his or her lack of respect for authority. Sometimes this is a problem that starts at home. Remember, your children are always watching you for behavioural cues, so ensure you model appropriate and respectful behaviour in front of them.
On the other hand, there are times when a child is unnecessarily singled-out by a figure of authority, causing undue stress and embarrassment. In this case, be sure to voice your concerns to the teacher or employee involved. If you aren’t satisfied with the outcome, contact your school chiarman/Board of education for advice on who you can talk to about the matter.
Our children shouldn’t have to spend their days worrying about the stresses of school. If anxiety becomes a problem in your family, find ways to quickly deal with the offending issues, and help kids continue to be kids.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

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Thiyagarajakumar is the CEO/Founder Of KalaAnantarupah Media Labs,a global multi domain IT/Media Company headquartered in Bangalore,India and Branches in Singapore,USA.  It is  a 100%  multi-tier provider of Information technology/Media with a customer centric approach to provide affortable solutions for organizations seeking web designing companies in India for offshore outsourcing, web design and development outsourcing, print design, multimedia presentation,Internet –Social Media Marketing,Pay per click marketing,search engine optimization,Conversion Rate Optimization,Online PR,Content Development,Online Reputation Management,App Development and Customer Relationship Management.


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Monday, September 13, 2010

Kid's Emotional Intelligence


Your twelve  year old is teased at school for being the new kid in class, or being too fat, or answering correctly one too many times, and tells you he wants to run away or kill himself. Your seven year old feels humiliated at dance practice because she can't dance for the rhythm as well as the other girls (never mind they had a year more practice) and wants to quit. Your three year old's preschool teacher complains to you about your son being too aggressive with the other kids. And your oldest teen girl gets a D on her last history exam and you find she seems to have given up studying and instead is sleeping and watching tv most of her free time. What does this all mean and what is a parent of a supposedly "smart" child to do?

First, realize that although each of these children are all bright, (have at least average or above IQ's) they have not developed the emotional skills necessary for success in such life situations. These skills, many of which we often take for granted, thankfully can be taught: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.


What is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence (EI) is one of the most important ideas to hit the business world in recent years. It is based on the notion that the ability of managers to understand their own emotions, and those of the people they work with, is the key to better business performance.  

                                                                                                  

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your emotions in positive and constructive ways. It's about recognizing your own emotional state and the emotional states of others. Emotional intelligence is also about engaging with others in ways that draw people to you.Emotional intelligence refers to five main emotional competency areas. Notice where your children's strengths and weaknesses are.

   1. Emotional self-awareness: 


Recognizing, naming, and understanding the cause of one's feelings. For example, children being able to not only identify feeling "bad" but angry, hurt, jealous, upset, sad, or scared in various life situations.

   2. Handling emotions appropriately


demonstrating productive options for managing stress and upsetting feelings rather than "acting-out" negatively such as using words rather than fists to express anger.

   3. Self-motivation: 

Thinking, planning, and solving problems by using impulse control, frustration tolerance, and delayed gratification to reach a specific goal (e.g.: no TV until homework is completed); and maintaining hope and optimism, trying again despite setbacks (e.g.: a poor grade on a test leads to studying more, not less).

   4. Empathy: 

recognizing and understanding emotions in others. If one child is able to care about how another is feeling, teasing or picking fights with unsuspecting victims can be drastically reduced.

   5. Social Skills

Handling emotions in relationships and interacting harmoniously with others, including being sensitive to others needs and wants, being able to listen to and soothe others feelings, and developing what is considered good "people skills".

The concept of emotional intelligence is to be applauded. Not because it is totally new, (you may recognize some aspects from previous ideas) but because it captures in one compelling term, the essence of what our children need to know to be productive and happy.

Intellectual ability is not enough. As Thiyagarajakumar points out, IQ, SAT, TOEFL, GRE, GMAT and etc.... scores do not predict who will be successful in life (IQ at best contributes about 20 percent). Even school success has been predicted more by emotional and social measures (e.g.: being self-assured and interested, following directions, turning to teachers for help, and expressing needs while getting along with other children) than by academic ability.

 Who Is Responsible?


Teachers might say parents are responsible for such social competence. Parents might say it is in the schools where children can best learn to get along with other children and develop social skills. Who is responsible? WE ALL ARE. With the devastating high rise of juvenile crime, depression, suicide, drug use, eating disorders, and pregnancy, we seem to have a generation of emotionally disabled youngsters and everyone must become involved to help turn the tide.


How To Get It

To understand how to develop emotional intelligence, we'll take a look at anger management, one of the most important skills for our children (and us) to master.




Think about the last time your child exploded in anger. When his sister grabbed the remote control and changed the TV station? When her younger brother burst into her room and bothered her friends? How did you react? With calm reason or did you explode back? If we lose control when our children do, what are we really teaching them?

The good news is that we have the power to change and grow - both in our actions and in helping our children develop competent emotional skills. Consider a
seven-year old girl who's been having alot of trouble getting along with his younger three year old sister, and who initially had difficulty expressing his feelings. With some simple training and direction she was able to develop a repertoire of positive coping skills and resolve her dilemma.

"How did you feel when you hit your sister?" - "Bad"

"Would you like to feel better?" - "Yes".

"What can you do next time so that you do not have to hit your sister and feel bad?"
She was able to articulate: "balloon breath (deep breathing) ... Count to ten.... goes to my room till I calm down" ... "use my words".

Here, in a simplified form appropriate to h
er age, she demonstrates excellent anger management by calming down using relaxation and distraction techniques, and not responding to her first impulse to hit. When asked what would help her to get along better with his sister, she responded "Not blaming her for things I do." The next time a similar incident occurred, a gentle reminder from her parent on how She decided She wanted to calmly handle the situation, assisted and empowered her to keep on track with her developing emotional intelligence.



Children Learn Best By What We Do



We are all role models for our children; we all have a responsibility. Every time we interact with a child we have the opportunity to teach and model emotional intelligence and health. Children learn by what they see us do; our well-intentioned words must be backed up by our actions.

As Thiyagarajakumar reminds us, "parents can help their children by coaching them emotionally, talking to them about their feelings and how to understand them, not being critical and judgmental, problem solving about emotional predicaments, coaching them on do, like alternatives to hitting, or to withdrawing when your sad". And, when they (and we) make mistakes (as can be expected), we can teach our children how to handle a future situation more productively. Not unexpectedly, studies indicate the more parents are emotionally adept, the more their children are.

One mother had a startling, simple revelation recently. She relayed a typical incident of her two children (brother and sister) beginning to escalate their differences into shouting and perhaps hitting. She was about to scream at them (certain to escalate the situation even more) when she remembered to stop, breathe, and count to ten before reacting. This mom surprised herself (she really wanted to get angry and "act-out") and something miraculous happened. As she was calming herself down, using deep breathing and self-talk, her kids began to follow her lead. They too, stopped yelling, breathed, and counted to ten. At that point they were able to talk through their problem and come up with a creative solution that satisfied and pleased everyone. What a learning experience - it finally clicked in - for her and for her kids!

Clearly, education at all levels is warranted. There even seems to be a special part of our brain for such skills as emotional self-control and empathetic understanding which continues to develop into late adolescence (16-18 years). Emotional habits acquired in childhood appear harder to change later in life, leading to a critical window of opportunity to help shape lifelong emotional propensities. Classes to raise the social and emotional competence in children are being taught all over the country at all grade levels under such titles as "social development", "life skills", "self science", "conflict resolution", and "emotional literacy". More are needed.

Increase your Kid’s/Teen’s EI


A s a parent, you can help your child develop her EI. It's never too late—and your child is never too old—for you to begin talking with her, asking her sensitive questions, listening to her responses, and offering gentle guidance or advice. Teenagers often get less physical touch and less one-on-one intimate conversation time with their parents than younger kids and toddlers do. And although they are good at hiding it, teens crave parenting.

To help a teen to boost his EI

looks at each of the five competencies above, and use them as a framework to observe your child's behavior. Perhaps your child is not behaving properly when he didn't get what he wanted. Or he failed to notice that you were very tired and stressed out after dinner when he had all his demands. Consider such behaviors teaching moments. Give him a hint about a different way to handle or look at the situation. Instead of telling him how to behave, however, ask him what he noticed, felt, or wanted. By gently pointing out new ways to interact with others, you give your teen an opportunity to learn and practice some new skills.

To reinforce these behaviors don't forget to praise your teen when she is exceptionally kind, or intuitive about another's feelings, or is patient, flexible, or communicative. Little by little, your bright teen can grow into an emotionally brilliant adult.

How to Test EI

Although there is no specific paper and pencil test to measure you child's EQ, just ask your 3, 7, 10, or 12 year old how they would handle the situations of our troubled friends at the opening of this article. Better yet, gather a group of your children's friends and pose these and other similar home-grown situations to open up creative brainstorming sessions. Who knows, you might be helping your child and their friends develop into healthy, happier, more productive adults.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

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